Mr. Mom
Can I admit that I love Mark Driscoll? The co-founder of Mars Hill Church in Seattle combines two of my favorite parts of Christianity: He has the energy, outward focus and cultural awareness of a young pastor, and the conservative and well-thought out theology characteristic of someone much older. When “Emergent” types like Brian McLaren claim to speak for my generation, I’m glad Driscoll is there to hold on to an orthodox view of Jesus.
If you want an example, check out this video at this Web site: http://theresurgence.com/should_husbands_be_stay_at_home_dads. He answers the question of whether it’s OK for a husband to be a stay-at-home dad in a balanced way, but still gives the hard, biblical truth: “No.”
That’s something a lot of Christians might bristle at today. Why does it matter who is making the money? Isn’t it better to have one parent stay home if the other is making enough money to provide for the family? A lot of pastors would be tempted to say that it is.
But that would be giving in to the culture, not looking at the Bible. It’s in the nature of men to be providers and caretakers. Both men and women are made in the image of God and reflect parts of Him, and men are made to reflect God’s provision and authority. Some can take that overboard and become workaholics who aren’t involved in their kids’ lives, which is also a sin that should be avoided at all costs.
But too often our culture says that it doesn’t matter which parent handles which responsibility, which couldn’t be further from the truth. Christian men should set the example by being real men and providing for their families while also being an active parent in their kids’ lives. I’m just glad some of the next generation of pastors like Mark Driscoll still believe that.
If you want an example, check out this video at this Web site: http://theresurgence.com/should_husbands_be_stay_at_home_dads. He answers the question of whether it’s OK for a husband to be a stay-at-home dad in a balanced way, but still gives the hard, biblical truth: “No.”
That’s something a lot of Christians might bristle at today. Why does it matter who is making the money? Isn’t it better to have one parent stay home if the other is making enough money to provide for the family? A lot of pastors would be tempted to say that it is.
But that would be giving in to the culture, not looking at the Bible. It’s in the nature of men to be providers and caretakers. Both men and women are made in the image of God and reflect parts of Him, and men are made to reflect God’s provision and authority. Some can take that overboard and become workaholics who aren’t involved in their kids’ lives, which is also a sin that should be avoided at all costs.
But too often our culture says that it doesn’t matter which parent handles which responsibility, which couldn’t be further from the truth. Christian men should set the example by being real men and providing for their families while also being an active parent in their kids’ lives. I’m just glad some of the next generation of pastors like Mark Driscoll still believe that.
posted by Editor at 1:46 PM
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I agree 100%. Before my wife died, she stayed home with the boys to teach them (home-school), feed them and care for them while I worked to provide for that type of life. We sacrificed most of this life's gains to do so. Now that she's gone, I've had to step into both roles, and boy is it hard. There's no doubt in my mind: Women are simply better at caring for the hearts of our children.
shouldn't you love Jesus Christ...not Mark Driscoll, since it's God's word and Mark is only the instrument?
I think he just said he loved the guy- not the he deified him. Ease up there, anonymous.
Hmmm...
How do you answer this without potentially offending a person that has a certain theological belief based on one of the scriptures that can very easily be interpretated in an offensive way?
Quote: But too often our culture says that it doesn’t matter which parent handles which responsibility, which couldn’t be further from the truth. Christian men should set the example by being real men and providing for their families while also being an active parent in their kids’ lives. I’m just glad some of the next generation of pastors like Mark Driscoll still believe that.
That is your opinion based on an interpretation and a personal view of the matter.
I agree with that thing inside of me that I am to be the main provider in my home. I do not my wife to work unless she wants to.
However that is my personal view point of how I feel about my home. That scripture is being interpretated in the context of the provision being solely up to the man. This is a family issue not a pastors.
If a man is unwiling to work that is a different matter. The problem with the pulpit, and i am a pastor, is that we overstep our bounds and condemn people in areas of peripheral not core foundational interpretation.
I overheard a discussion about this message the day it happened at a persons house in seattle. The home that was frustrated with the message is a Godly, amazing home of wonderful parents where the wife is the primary financial provider...by choice. Oh yeah that had till this day attended Mars Hill.
Its not my place, Mark Driscolls, or Strang Magazines to say that this scripture that cannot be interpreted in the way that it was, to condemn a family or a home.
Its our opinion and leaning that we wish to be primary providers in our homes. its our job as ministry leaders to kick a guys tail into employment if he is unwilling.
It is not our job to tell the health families sitting in the seats of our local churches how to run this area of their lives if they are content and their budgets allow.
Marks wife was very condemning with her opening statement. And that causes division.
So my opinion is that I want to be the sole or primary provider in my home.
But it does not say anywhere in the bible that a persons wife cannot choose to be the financial provider.
Amen
Mark Driscoll seems to have a problem with the other sex, one that shocks me with its intensity.
This is the same person who, after the Ted Haggard homosexual scandal said, "It is not uncommon to meet pastors' wives who really let themselves go; they sometimes feel that because their husband is a pastor, he is therefore trapped into fidelity, which gives them cause for laziness.A wife who lets herself go and is not sexually available to her husband in the ways that the Song of Songs is so frank about is not responsible for her husband's sin, but she may not be helping him either."
So--who's to blame for Ted Haggard's sexuality? His wife. (By the way, she is not slovenly.)
He lost me at that one.
I read his book on Mars Hill. Disappointing, extremely chauvinistic, and reveals a man with a tiny, insecure woman-hating soul. And, by establishing a church for "young people" he seems to think that he will be 30 forever. In addition, he is constantly having to make apologies to someone somewhere. AND--his church is always mad at someone and/or firing someone. Sounds like a real loving place.
Watch who you admire. Nothing disappoints like man.
I had been a stay at home husband after my wife finished commissioned officer training. I think it was quite right for me to support her, and us, during this transition. Care to disagree?
"Women are simply better at caring for the hearts of our children."
Sorry, but as a guy who is a 22 year teacher of second graders, I have to disagree; men and women can BOTH (and should) care for the hearts of our children.
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