Question: I would like to try new sexual experiences with my wife but am afraid to ask her. Is any form of sexual activity OK inside marriage?

 

Answer: Your question is a very common one. Men generally like to be creative. We like different meals, different cars and hopefully different T-shirts. This need for creativity will naturally carry over into our sex lives, and we'll want to try different things in the bedroom.

 

However, if this desire stems from viewing pornography or indulging unhealthy fantasy, this will be a problem. In the world of pornography, the pictures are all pretend. The models are being paid to look and act in a certain manner. Their bodies are often surgically enhanced and the pictures are airbrushed to perfection.

 

To ask your wife to participate in a new experience because you're trying to live out some unrealistic fantasy is both wrong and unfair to her. In fact, if this is your goal, it may be the very reason that you're reluctant to ask her.

 

Second, if the Spirit of God is already indicating to you that this isn't a great idea, you're on shaky ground. You may want to ask God's permission first, since your wife is His daughter, and then wait to see what He says before asking your wife.

 

Last, if you have God's permission and you want to experiment and you and your wife both are comfortable with what is being suggested (other than the use of pornography or involving others), you can then experiment. However, if she wants to stop or never try that again, honor her request.