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FAITH

Escape From Iraq
By Dave Urbanski

Truck driver Thomas Hamill took a job overseas to save the family farm. But his life took a nightmarish turn when he was kidnapped by insurgents. Here is his courageous story.

During his first several months in Iraq, Thomas Hamill regularly led his convoy of trucks through treacherous stretches of Iraqi highway with nicknames such as "Widow Maker" and "Sniper Alley"--dangerous asphalt corridors that were prime real estate for ambush-happy insurgents armed with caches of mortars, rocket-propelled grenades and machine guns.

A 44-year-old dairy farmer and trucker from Macon, Miss., struggling to make ends meet for his family, Hamill was halfway through a tax-free, $75,000 annual salary as a civilian truck driver aiding military efforts in Iraq--and for once in his adversity-filled life, he was sitting pretty.

"I was faced with bankruptcy and losing the farm," Hamill tells New Man. "It's tough for small farms now. But I didn't want to quit--I'm a third-generation dairy farmer. So ... I actually went to Iraq to relieve a little stress; I was under so much stress here that I figured Iraq couldn't be any worse."

But on April 9, 2004--Good Friday, as it happens--Iraq suddenly got worse for Hamill. A lot worse.

His convoy of fuel trucks was in the final stages of a 60-mile journey that was supposed to end at the Baghdad International Airport. Instead, Iraqi insurgents tore through Hamill's convoy, destroying equipment, killing five fellow workers and wounding and capturing Hamill.

"I knew when the cars started leaving the highway that something was fixin' to happen," Hamill recalls in his thick, Southern accent. "I'd heard roadside bombs go off before, but it's different when you're being shot at and wondering, 'Is that bullet headed for me?' ... I've seen war movies like Saving Private Ryan, and the day we were attacked was like storming Omaha Beach, just never-ending and loud. I didn't know from one second to the next what was going to happen."

More than likely, you saw the news footage on infinite repeat last spring of masked gunmen displaying Hamill's mustachioed face for video cameras from the backseat of a car on the first day of his captivity.

Thus began Hamill's imprisonment by Iraqi rebels--detailed in his New York Times best-selling book, Escape in Iraq: The Thomas Hamill Story--which happily ended a month after his capture, when Hamill made a daring, half-mile dash from his guarded farmhouse toward an Army National Guard convoy he heard passing nearby.

"I prayed a lot," Hamill recalls. "And I sure felt the prayers of this country and my town. I was at peace and had a calm demeanor. But you know, I'm human. I'm 8,000 miles away from my family. My wife can't help me. My mom and dad can't help me. Nobody can help me. A situation like that can overwhelm you, drive you crazy. But Jesus has been working in my life for a long time. Growing through Jesus Christ--that's what it's all about."

Hamill's faith in God has been a major focus of his story in both TV interviews and his book. He makes no bones about who had rescued him from the jaws of death. Surprisingly, this wasn't the first time God had saved his life.

"I should have been killed years before in a truck wreck. I've had other struggles, too, and I often wondered why God was keeping me alive," he says.

Now that Hamill's back home and has encouraged thousands of people at book signings, he continually sees his ordeal through fresh eyes.

"Like me, a lot of men have felt at times like they were at the bottom. Even though God says He doesn't put more on us than we can bear, I used to think I was taking more than I could bear already--until I was captured. I didn't realize how 'at the top' I'd been until then."


Dave Urbanski is senior developmental editor for Youth Specialties and author of The Man Comes Around: The Spiritual Journey of Johnny Cash, available at relevantbooks.com.

On the Frontlines

Jason Illian: Pure Romantic
Interview by LORIE G. MUNIZZI

Jason Illian, a motivational speaker from Fort Worth, Texas, was one of the 25 bachelors on the third installment of ABC's The Bachelorette with Jen Schefft. What made this bachelor stand out from the rest of the crowd? This 29-year-old Christian unashamedly told Schefft, in front of millions of TV viewers, his stance on abstaining from premarital sex. Here's an excerpt from New Man's recent conversation with Illian:
New Man: How did the other guys on the show react to your stance on purity?
Illian: Most of them were shocked and amazed. But whether they agreed with my stance or not, I can honestly say that every single guy respected it--and I think that says a lot about our beliefs.
New Man: What would you say to Christian single men out there who may be struggling to stand up for what they believe in the midst of a culture that doesn't share their convictions?
Illian: You don't have to have sex to be sexy, and you don't have to touch a woman's body to touch her heart. When you stand up for God, He will always, immediately, wholeheartedly and powerfully stand up for you. You will be blessed beyond your wildest dreams.
New Man: What are some steps guys can take to guard their purity and their girlfriends' purity in a relationship?
Illian: There are many things we can do to combat the urge to swan dive off the headboard into our girlfriends' laps, but the one that has been most effective for me is having accountability partners in my life. You are far less likely to take a girl to bed when you have to face your buddy the next day and explain the whole date.


Lorie G. Munizzi is New Man's assistant editor and resident "bachelorette." To read the entire transcript of this interview, visit the "online features" section of newmanmag.com. For more information about Jason Illian, visit jasonillian.com.

Man Talk: Tackling Tough Topics

Every second Wednesday of the month, men from all over the Dallas area pour into The Potter's House, better known to some as Bishop T.D. Jakes' church. They come looking for answers to life's toughest questions through the ministry of Man Talk. Originally introduced in 1999, the program was re-launched in 2004 with a talk-show format, coordinated by local radio host and Potter's House staff member Chris Howell. Issues covered in this open Q&A structure include relationships, sexuality, fatherhood, dreams, destiny, health, money and domestic violence. The series of meetings also inspired Howell to write the book Man Talk, the Book: The Hard Things Men Never Talk About (self-published). The "for men only" concept has allowed Man Talk to flourish, Howell says: "The goal is to offer an emotionally safe haven where men can come and first understand that they are not in this alone. Secondly, the goal is to get men to open up and express their feelings, be it good, bad or indifferent. ... Simply put, the mission is to enlighten, encourage and empower men through talk."
For more information on Man Talk: visit mantalkonline.com.

FAMILY

E-Dads!

10 Web sites EVERY dad needs to know about

1. Daddyshop.com ­A great place for dads to go to purchase items for their kids--and for themselves.
2. Fathers.com ­Sponsored by The National Center for Fathering, this site provides a wide array of resources for dads, including expert advice on handling the various stages of a child's development.
3. Newdads.com ­This online "boot camp for new dads" is a great resource for first-time fathers with specific advice on taking care of your baby or toddler.
4. Keepkidshealthy.com ­This Web site supplies you with resources that will assist you from birth to adolescence, including parenting tips on hot topics such as bed-wetting, discipline, potty training and sleeping habits.
5. Onemilliondads.com ­As a project of the American Family Association, this site encourages fathers to band together and help "stop the exploitation of our children" by organizing campaigns against media outlets that produce indecent programming and the companies that support it with advertising.
6. Slowlane.com ­If you're one of the growing number of stay-at-home dads, then this site is chock full of online references, resources and networking opportunities.
7. Dadsanddaughters.org ­For the fathers trying to build a better relationship with the special young ladies in their lives, this site contains numerous articles on the subject and give dads a chance to stand up as advocates for daughters across the country.
8. Sportsparenting.org ­This site is perfect for dads looking to get involved with their children's youth sports activities, addressing both athletic development and character development.
9. Collegeparenting.com ­Tells dads how to plan their children's educational future from financial planning to college admissions and campus life.
10. Itsmylife.com­ This site allows you to create a legal will online for a nominal fee.

When Your Girl Goes Wild

Taming a prodigal daughter requires patience and determination ... and a whole lot of prayer.

In the new book Daughters Gone Wild, Dads Gone Crazy, Charles Stone and his daughter Heather talk about surviving Heather's prodigal experience. They offer this advice to fathers on the edge:

1. Don't panic at the first signs of trouble. The first time your daughter comes home late from a date, wears pants that look like someone airbrushed them on or gets her body pierced in other-than-ear-lobe locations, don't panic. Things aren't as bad as you may think.

2. When you're ticked off, don't let words become weapons. If you both have strong wills, you may try to get the last word in. When your anger tempts you to say something you'll regret, count to 10. Better yet, count to 100.

3. Make the tough calls ... even when it hurts. Tough love will hurt initially, but it may offer the only protection from long-term damage to you, your daughter or your relationship. If you must make a difficult call, do so carefully with the help of wise friends.

4. When love languishes, stoke the relationship fire. If shame tells you to close your heart to your daughter, pray that God will stir up the emotional embers. Expect to shed a few tears in the process.

5. Reconnect through gifts from the heart. Give your daughter small tokens of love even when she doesn't deserve them. They can add relational oxygen to your relationship when you need it most. Remember, we don't deserve Jesus' gift of forgiveness either.

6. Laugh between the tears. Find ways to laugh with your daughter, but never at her. If she won't laugh with you, laugh anyway. Laughter can soften the edges of rebellion.

7. Choose your battles wisely (and lose some on purpose). On purpose, let your daughter win a few battles that don't really matter. It never hurts to swallow your pride.

8. Never lose hope. Even though your relationship may be on life-support, don't pull the plug by withdrawing hope. When hope dies, the relationship dies.

9. Soften your prodigal's re-entry. When your daughter begins her trek back to your family and faith, balance your expectations. Though your relationship will improve, you'll still need to give lots of latitude.

FITNESS

The Problem With "Mirror Muscles"

Most men only train the muscles they can see in the mirror. Sooner or later, it catches up with them.
By DINO NOWAK

Chest. Shoulders. Arms. Abs. Guys tend to focus on all of those "mirror muscles" when training. Today, we're going to focus on the muscles you can't see in the mirror. Then, we'll learn how to train and get the benefits that come with these important but oft-neglected muscles.

1. Posterior deltoid -­ Often called the rear delt, this muscle is responsible for moving your arm back and moving it away from the center of your body. Shoulder instability and injuries are often the result of a weakness in the posterior deltoid.

2. Rhomboids­ - These muscles are located underneath the trapezius or "traps." They stabilize and allow your scapula (or shoulder blade) to rotate and be drawn in toward your spine.

With both our posterior deltoid and rhomboids out of balance in relation to the mirror muscles, you're more likely to suffer from what's called upper crossed syndrome. This is categorized by the shortening and lengthening of stabilizing and supportive ligaments and muscles in the head, neck and shoulders. People with this condition have rounded shoulders with their heads protruding forward.

To combat this problem, here are three exercises for each area:

Posterior deltoid

1. Seated or standing row with high elbows. Draw your belly button in toward your spine. If you're standing, contract your glutes (rear). Use exercise tubing or any cable system at the gym and adjust so the tubes or cables are at shoulder level. Pull the tubing back in a rowing motion without leaning backward or allowing your elbows to drop to your sides; move your scapula (shoulder blades) together as if you were trying to squeeze a pencil between them. This is called scapular retraction. Then, with your arms retracted, bring down your shoulder blades as much as you can comfortably. This is scapular depression. Repeat this motion 10 to 12 times.

2. Bent-over rear deltoid fly. Have a seat on a chair or bench, and bend forward from the torso. Do not round the back. Grab two light dumbbells. Start from the outside of your heels, and raise the dumbbells up to shoulder level with a slight bend in the elbow. Maintain control and do not lift up or jerk back and forth. Repeat this routine 10 to 12 times.

3. Seated rear-deltoid fly on pec deck. Use the "pec deck" machine, facing toward it. This is basically a reverse fly.

Rhomboids and upper back

1. Cobra on floor. Lay flat on the floor with your arms at your sides and your palms facing down. Draw your belly button in and squeeze your glutes as you lift your upper body off the floor, and lift your arms and externally rotate your thumbs to the ceiling. Do not let your legs turn out as you squeeze your rear. Keep your head down to maintain a straight spine. Do not lift too high. Just do what is comfortable. Nothing should be painful. Hold for a moment at the top position, then lower your body. Repeat 12 times.

2. Lat pull. Grab the bar on a lat pull-down machine with an overhand grip a little wider than shoulder width. Lean back just a bit to allow the bar space in front of you. (Never do pull downs behind the head. You risk pinching the cervical vertebrae and damaging the shoulder capsule.) Before you pull down, retract and depress your scapula, then pull. Pause at the bottom, then repeat exercise 10 to 12 times.

3. Seated row. Sit at a height so that when you grab the handles of the seated row machine or exercise tubing, your arms are parallel to the floor. Place your chest in contact with the pad (if using a machine), and pull your navel in toward the spine. Initiate the pulling movement first with scapular retraction and depression, then pull. Do not lean back or cave forward over the pad. Lower your body, and repeat the exercise 10 to 12 times.


Dino Nowak's training credentials include the American College of Sports Medicine, the American Council on Exercise and The Cooper Institute. His new book, The Final Makeover, was just released in January. He lives in Los Angeles. To contact Dino, visit his Web site at espfitness.com.

FINANCE

From the Ashes

Seven steps to surviving financial disaster from former Vanguard Airlines CEO Scott Dickson
By DAVE URBANSKI

Early in the morning on September 11, 2001, Scott Dickson, then CEO of Vanguard Airlines, watched from the cockpit of one of his company's jets as the clouds parted over Manhattan's skyline. Dickson made it a point to rub shoulders as often as possible with his employees during their shifts, and the pilots were no exception.

"At about 1 a.m. we were flying right next to the World Trade Center," Dickson, 52, recalls. "The Twin Towers were all lit up, and we had a spectacular vantage point from the cockpit. I remarked to one of the pilots what an incredible sight they were--little did we know that we were some of the last people to ever get that view."

Less than eight hours later, the world changed.

In a hotel room just over a mile from what's now known as Ground Zero, Dickson was preparing for investor meetings when his phone rang. It was a Vanguard shareholder who he was traveling with. "You'd better turn on the TV," the shareholder said. "A jet just crashed into one of the Twin Towers."

In a state of disbelief, Dickson tried to walk to his first meeting and was confronted with a sea of humanity. He recalls: "People were moving north from lower Manhattan by any means possible. It was very orderly, there was no fighting--just this incredible mass movement. We could see the smoke billowing above the skyline; there was this acrid smell. When I finally got back to my hotel, I started running a remote emergency center from my room."

Dickson talked to his wife and his associates at Vanguard. Their passengers and planes were safely on the ground and accounted for. Relief.

But Dickson's mind began racing as a new reality set in.

"For however long we were grounded, we'd be devastated financially," he recalls, echoing the concerns of every airline, big and small, around the country. "We had a couple of thousand passengers to re-accommodate. Local passengers could just go back home, but those in transit we were putting up in hotels. Homeless shelters provided cots. We were just running on adrenaline."

Dickson adds: "It was like a war--there was fear and angst in your gut, but we had to do what we had to do to stay alive as a company. I got back home to Dallas later that week, and as my wife and I drove to church on Sunday, I just broke down crying. It was just a huge release of emotion."

Dickson details the 10 months that followed--including what he learned after the gut-wrenching decision to shut down Vanguard and declare bankruptcy in July 2002--in his book, Never Give Up: 7 Principles for Christians Leading in Tough Times (Barbour).

"When we had to file for bankruptcy, that was a brutally tough day, a heartbreaking time," Dickson notes.

Dickson worked on and off in consulting jobs after Vanguard's shutdown--until January 2005 when he signed on as chief marketing officer for Midwest Airlines, one of Vanguard's arch rivals. Dickson says there are key lessons he has learned that Christian business leaders can apply during difficult times (see below):

1. Put fear in its place. God never intended for any of us to live in fear. When we're afraid, we need to humbly bring our fears before God. Then, He empowers us to look fear in the face and say, "No!"

2. Remember to pray. God actually wants to bless us in all things, including our business concerns. We must simply make our business concerns a part of our daily prayer lives.

3. Get God's perspective. It is essential to find times and places to get away and spend time alone with God. When we do that, we receive His special blessing.

4. Provide "front-line" leadership. Spending time on the front lines is absolutely essential for the well-being of a company during the good times and for its very survival during the difficult ones. It shows that you care not just about the company as a whole but about each person individually.

5. Communicate often and honestly. One example of bad business leadership is poor communication. Whether you use regular e-mails, office memos or personal interactions, communication is a must when it comes to leading during difficult times.

6. Persevere through everything. Most of the time, the road to blessing and success is paved with setbacks and even some short-term or temporary failures. God has promised us that if we persevere, if we refuse to give up, we will find blessing.

7. Focus on the "bigger picture." Focusing on the "bigger picture" means doing all we can to make sure we glorify God in every decision we make and action we take. And it's also making sure that we are in the place He wants us to be when He wants us to be there.

A Debt-Free Degree

Nationally, the average debt load for undergraduates has reached $18,900, according to a recent survey by lender Nellie Mae, more than doubling the $9,118 student average in 1993. These tips can help you to keep school debt to a minimum:

Stretch out your school experience. "It's not uncommon to see students take 5 to 6 years to complete an undergraduate program," says Lee University's associate director of financial aid, Marian Huffman. "It could be a combination of academic rigor as well as financial burden."

Take off-hour courses. Some schools offer tuition reduction for classes taken during off-peak hours.

Earn credits from a less expensive institution. Transferring qualified and approved credits from a community college or another less expensive institution to a more prestigious college or university can add up to big savings.

Shop for bargains. Lower tuition does not necessarily mean an inferior quality of education.

Seek school discounts. Colleges often offer discounts for employees, military personnel, siblings attending the same college, and children of ministers and missionaries.

Create a college savings plan in advance. Some states offer 529 college savings programs, which allow tax-free deductions to create a college savings that can be used at any college in the United States, or prepaid tuition plans, where residents buy a contract or bonds at a fixed price, based on the rates of college tuition today.

Buy textbooks overseas. Just like prescription drugs are cheaper in Canada, English-language college textbooks from other countries are cheaper than their American counterparts.

Get a REAL Job!

Author Dan Miller tells you how to take advantage of changing work models--and succeed in ANY economy.

In Dan Miller's book 48 Days to the Work You Love, the popular business author cites a U.S. Department of Labor statistic stating that 50 percent of the jobs in the next six years have yet to be created. It's that kind of rapid change that has men everywhere stressed out over their professional futures.

But Miller, president of The Business Source, based in Franklin, Tenn., takes a more optimistic approach and sees the fluid job market as ripe with opportunity. Here are a few of Miller's nuggets of wisdom on how you can be prepared for this new dynamic workplace:

Security, predictability, rewarded loyalty and guaranteed retirement benefits are elements of a workplace that no longer exists. Today's "security" is assured only by having a clear understanding of transferable "areas of competence." Seeing yourself as self-employed or recognizing you will need to move from organization to organization is a healthy approach to work life.

Work is not a curse from God. It is our greatest gift for fulfillment, accomplishment, peace, ministry and financial rewards. Adam and Eve were put in the Garden of Eden to "work it and take care of it" before the fall (Gen. 2:15, NIV). Solomon said enjoying our work is a "gift of God" (Eccl. 3:13). We set an example for others as we are "working for the Lord" (Col. 3:23). We will have work assignments in heaven (see Is. 65:22).

Passion, determination, talent, self-discipline and faith are the five solid predictors of success in any work environment. With these, you can succeed in any economy. Without these, you will likely fail in the best or worst of times. Enthusiasm and a smile may do more to open new opportunities than adding a Ph.D. to your résumé.

Ability alone is a poor indicator of success or even proper work placement. Everyone has multiple abilities. Fulfilling work must blend your skills and abilities, personality tendencies and values, dreams and passions.

The major difference between successful and unsuccessful job hunters is not skill, education, age or ability, but the way they go about their job search. Using the newspaper and Internet job listings is a poor approach and can easily give the impression that no one is hiring. Identifying target companies and contacting them with a three-step approach will lead directly to the 87 percent of jobs never advertised.

New work models are appearing. By 2007 only 50 percent of the American workforce will be "employees." The rest will be contract workers, consultants, contingency workers, temps, entrepreneurs, telecommuters, electronic immigrants and freelance experts. Recognizing the changing work models will allow you to see new and creative options for every situation. NM

SPORTS

Prime-Time Faith

Christian sports broadcasters are making a difference in a world that often promotes values contrary to the Bible.

It's hard to say when things changed, but sometime around the Howard Cosell era, sports broadcasters emerged from behind the microphone and into the hearts of sports fans as full-fledged celebrities.

So it shouldn't be a big surprise to learn that sports broadcasters are now facing many of the same temptations as the athletes that they cover. Spencer Tillman has experienced those challenges from multiple angles. As a CBS college-football analyst and former star athlete with the Oklahoma Sooners and Houston Oilers, he is fully aware of the pitfalls of fame.

"Temptation is always going to be out there because people are drawn to some sense of celebrity," Tillman says. "The key is to start off knowing that is the case. When you understand the nature of the business and the nature of people, then you can guard against those things."

For Ernie Johnson, it took some hard lessons as an unsaved journalist before he finally found Christ in 1997. As the popular studio host for Turner Broadcasting's NBA coverage, he too can easily pinpoint the primary culprit that aims to tear down the character of Christian sports broadcasters.

"There are a lot of land mines out there in broadcasting, chiefly to me the recognition and praise and criticism that comes your way," Johnson says. "I really struggled for a long time, and still do from time to time, with pride and arrogance and concern over what viewers and critics think of me. I remind myself that if anybody's going to get any glory out of this thing it's God."

According to TBS college-football announcer Ron Thulin, he first advises new talent to be vigilant while on the road through personal prayer, and devotion time and accountability.

"Traveling affords you many opportunities to fall," Thulin says. "There's a lot of downtime. You're in hotel rooms alone. Females do recognize you. They do come up and want to talk. ... When you're on the road, you have to really be aware that the devil is going to attack you."

Former ESPN and FOX broadcaster Eric Clemons (currently serving as the sports anchor at FOX affiliate WVUE in New Orleans) says Christian reporters need to take a stand for what they believe in, even if it costs them personally.

"There are certain political games that are played that defy truth," Clemons says. "If a higher up at a network tells me something and it opposes my truth, then I'm going to let him know that. ... I truly believe that's why I haven't been a long-standing person at that [national] level."

Christian sports broadcasters are also faced with an onslaught of negative stories that are constantly filling up the airwaves.

"The one thing that really bugs me is how fatherhood is celebrated when the athlete isn't married," Johnson says. "I'm not going to get on my soapbox and debate the point. That's not why I'm there. ... But you will not hear me joining the backslapping and high-fiving for an out-of-wedlock birth. That's not the message I want to send."

Golf Channel reporter Brian Anderson says that it's a natural tendency to dig out the dirt, but feels it is his responsibility as a Christian to dig even deeper for the positives.

"The problem is that we want to know too much about the athletes, especially the troubled ones," Anderson says. "Positive, encouraging, newsworthy stories do exist."

Along with the opportunity to reach into millions of households is the opportunity to be an influence on the many people that work behind the scenes, the people who rarely receive due credit.

"I think I have a responsibility to reflect God," Thulin says. "It's so easy to get caught up in the game. You've got so many things hitting you at once. You have meetings for 14 hours and tapes to watch. But you forget there are 40 other people making me look good. I've always made it a point to treat those people with respect. ... I try to make sure they know that they can come to me when they're going through a tough time. They know that I care."

Planting Seeds on Putting Greens

How a Florida-based organization teaches kids about God ... through golf.

If you ever attend a clinic organized by Growing Kids Through Golf, it won't take long to spot Mark Eberle, the program's founder. He's usually the one watching the interaction between young golfers and their professional counterparts with a wide, endless smile across his face.

It was 15 years ago in Van Wert, Ohio, when Eberle first conceived the idea of using golf as a way to minister to kids. Now based in Orlando, Fla., the once would-be professional golfer recalls how his heart was turned toward outreach.

"As my golf career developed by playing the mini tours and then teaching, I was gradually drawn away from my (Christian) foundation," Eberle explains. "It was a personal encounter with God that refocused my life 20 years ago. It was such a powerful experience I walked away from golf to seek what God wanted for my life."

A two-month trip to the Amazon opened Eberle's eyes to what God had in store for his future. Initially, that vision was encompassed through his organization known as the Christian Golfer's Association (CGA). The first youth clinic consisted of just six pupils. Since then, the ministry has expanded to include a six-level program that involves kids ages 7 to 17.

Growing Kids Through Golf helps local churches start their own golf-related outreaches but focuses much of its attention on Tour Heroes Clinics that take place at different PGA, LPGA and Champions Tour stops around the country. These one-day events allow local kids and parents to interact with tour players who give golf demonstrations and share their testimonies. Eberle has been blessed to work with a number of professional golfers including Lee Janzen and David Gossett (PGA), and Tracy Hanson (LPGA) and Jim Thorpe (Champions Tour).

"The goal of the program is to impact the lives of young people," Eberle says. "Our focus is to connect kids to their local church where they can be cared for, nurtured and loved. And to give the kids who are already active in their local church leadership skills along with a sense of ownership in their church no matter how young they are."


To find a Growing Kids Through Golf clinic in your area, or to start your own local chapter, check out the ministry's Web site, gktg.org.

How to Hook Your Kids on Golf

1. Let them call the shots. Learning the correct grip may be fundamental, but to a fertile, inquisitive mind, the grip can be drudgery. Let them explore the game on their own at the outset.

2. Do more "playing" than teaching. The lesson should not last longer than 30 minutes. Furthermore, the 30 minutes should be broken down into 10 minutes of actual teaching and 20 minutes of playing.

3. Share the joy. Enthusiasm and excitement, felt and expressed without restraint, increases the child's desire to please, learn and excel (a 1-minute puppet show with the headcovers doesn't hurt either).

4. Communicate on their level. Don't stand when you talk; kneel down and look the child in the eye. Rather than say "wide arc," say "big circle." Instead of challenging them to make a "descending blow," ask them to "thump the ground." Children must comprehend an idea before they can execute it.

5. Tee it up in more ways than one. To establish an early pattern of success, tee the ball on every shot with every club. Be ready to help at every turn.

6. Visual is better than verbal. Don't explain the point, show it.

7. Safety first, last and always. Keep the child in your line of sight at all times. Kids don't drive the cart. They don't sit alone on the passenger side. They sit right next to you or on your lap.

8. There is no such thing as criticism. In a child's simplistic world, events are classified as either "fun" or "not fun." Criticism is not fun. If they hit a good shot, you say, "Good shot." If they hit a bad shot, you say, "Good swing."

9. Think of creative ways to teach technique. Little kids don't have the strength, balance or mass to swing the club like an adult. A little creativity will help overcome these issues.

10. Make a big deal out of the short game. Never walk past the practice green with a child. Walk on it, then use it. Heighten the child's curiosity about this vital part of the game, and then let the child pursue it.
Source: Golf Digest

 
This article appeared in the May/Jun 2005 issue.

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